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Tom and Birth Mother Sue
Found 06-04-2004!
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Birth Mother Lori and Son Zach
Found 2005!
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Sandy,
I had a great talk with my birth mother, Mary. It was amazing the sense of calm that settled in during our conversation. Finding out the reasons behind the adoption and just knowing what happened prior to and after my birth, were very much a closure to questions that for years had been in the back of my mind. Listening to the fear in her voice when she asked if she had made correct decision... Were your parents caring, good to you and not abusive? and hearing the relief in her voice when I told her that the decision was a good one and that my childhood was a happy one put so much relief in her voice.
I have an older sister out there some where, Mary has lost track of her since she was sent to live with other family members around the time of my adoption. I also have 2 younger half-sisters who live in Wyoming, not far from their Mom. I got some heritage questions answered along with finding out that she has Lupus which effects her heart and legs, plus we share the same hair color and short legs :-) I have my fathers eyes....
A new chapter has opened and I shall see where this one fits in with my life. If nothing else ever comes from our conversation I will always have a feeling of Peace because I found some answers to questions that I had suppressed for a long time. That is a good thing.
Thank you so much for the call, even if my husband was the one who as at home at the time. He was so excited that when I called him from work, he told me... I started crying in front of a Dr and a patient at the clinic. The Dr was right there asking if everything was OK and I smiled and said yes. The patient, a young man about 23 kept saying "that is so cool, you only hear about things like this on TV"; "Wow".
We need to hear of more reunions, even if we know that what you hear might not be what you are hoping for. I am so glad to be among the few that have gotten an answer, for I really did not expect to get one, and no matter what the answer was behind my adoption it does not change my love for my parents. It also means that I could tell my birth Mom thank you. As we hung up she quickly added "I love You". I freely said "I love you too". She did a great, fear filled thing in giving me up to strangers and I love her for it and wish her some peace about her decision.
Here's to new chapters in our lives!
Sharon A
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Sisters Amie and Joy
Found 08-24-03!
FAMILY REUNITED 2004!
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FAMILY
Alice Joy Gifford/ Heather Joy Wilson
Two names one person...
There is a glimpse of familiarity in your eyes and a comfort from your arms. You were there in my youth and only time has left a gap. My heart feels the love it once knew. Your kindness overwhelms my soul and it is for once that I feel whole. I feel as if I found where I belong. A bittersweet reunion between present and past. I think we found our home at last. We gather around the table once more so many faces I adore. I wonder if I am strong enough to face what is yet to come. Will we gather when were older and is this forever or just another boulder. It is to late to protect my inner child it is to late my feelings are running wild. I see my children held as I once was I feel the thing called Love. I see what once was just a dream become a reality and most of all a family. Though not perfect by ones thought but who said love can be bought. Families are not sold in stores with pretty little bows families are made as everyone knows. Life is the river that forms its banks. Some are windy and some drift off but they all gather at the ocean floor. Where life is renewed once more. My life has been filled with so much pain and sorrow, now I have a reason to face tomorrow. How do I thank thee for letting me back in your life, as the love I once knew is being renewed. The seal of blood has proven its worth. And once again life has given new birth.
Reunited At Last
by Susan Dockstader
Thank you Joy and Amie for finding me and choosing to be a part of my life. It seems that time has quickly gone by, but there is so much more than time that we have lost. At times it seems as if those strangers hurt us more than if they had cut our hearts with a knife.
You were my dear little neices that I never forgot and knew I never would no matter the cost.
I always wondered about the two little girls I loved, who were taken from my sister's arms. And now you have found us, and I am eagerly learning about you and all of your charms.
As each day passes, I find that there are so many things to learn that is new. I hope that I will be able to provide you with answers to questions that have haunted you.
Our lives were sent on different paths long ago, but now God has chosen to lead you to me. You are my neices that I always loved, and now I get to know your children as I knew you. I am slowly healing, for I know time will give back what strangers took from you and me!
Thank You God for our future and our past! I am so happy and thankful that we are reunited at last!
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Birth Mother Sharon J and Daughter Sara
Found 08-26-03!
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Found 09-09-03!
Christina and Birth Mother Sharon
Christina's Daughter and Sharon
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I too felt that peace and calm during our hour and half long conversation. Her main concern that I had and have a good home. She now knows about the grandchild and carries her picture with her. I now know the why and how. A friend of mine since junior high says it looks like someone took ten years off of me. The mystery is over. The questions are answered and we can move on. There will be some contact but she will probably limit it.
Some of the siblings know about me, some do not so I will not try to find them. However I do have their names and birth years. Knowing they are alive and well is enough for me.
In addition, it has enriched my relationships with the adoptive family. The sense of closure and peace and trust is sometimes overwhelming. I may never see my biological mother again but I have the memory and the answers I sought. I can see where I came from and getting a glimpse of my future.
Thank you to everyone who encouraged and helped in the search. The relief and the end result make the journey and the self doubt all worthwhile. It has taken a few days to absorb the fact that I sat across the table from my mother for the first time. Yet it heals the hole in the heart and helps to complete the puzzle of my life. Thank you again.
Kelly R (aka Baby Girl Alsopp)
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Newborn Baby
Left alone
Crying and reaching for arms that will never hold you
No mothers breath upon your head
No cooing or warmth to welcome you to this world
No sound of mother's heartbeat, no suckling -
No mother's finger brushing your baby soft cheek
Or counting your fingers and toes
You cry, you root, you seek for mother's warm familiarity
But she is not there
Strangers soothe and rock you
Feed and bathe you
Then once again, Newborn Baby, you are left alone.
Newborn Baby
Yes, she left you, the mother that grew and sheltered you in her womb
She left you
But, it wasn't your fault
It wasn't because you weren't good enough or pretty enough or anything like that
You were a beautiful little baby
Dark hair and eyes
So tiny, so precious
How could any mother leave you?
You, Newborn Baby, were enough.
Christina L
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I just hung up the phone with Jessica, my daughter!
We have talked for several hours. Discussing my pregnancy, delivery and our lives. There is NO DOUBT that she is my daughter as she carries so many traits of mine. She...wants a relationship with me. We exchanged pictures. We will continue to talk and see what happens.
I cannot believe that after 18 years this has happened. Although I knew it would, I didn't realize that it would take such a short amount of time. I appreciate all your help.
My Best Wishes,
Karine
Birthmother 02-20-86
Found daughter 06-21-04
(I couldn't resist!!!)
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